My career, i feel so depressed!?

my ex was a medical student with me; he broke up with me after he got engaged to another girl . last time i contacted him was a year ago when i called him and yelled @ him and wished him the worst ,


just to let you know; he was always verbally abusive and i kept treating him with love; but when he told me i am not the one for him ; i kept questioning why he is doing this to me; he said i was just there to please myself sexually and meant nothing to him; and if i wanted he can hook me up (for sex) purporses with his cousin. i kept crying he said i was pathetic with no dignity and i was not crazy but insane





now the question is ; in order for me to apply to a job i have to do volunteer work and the hospital that i have high chances of getting accepted @ is affiliated with the hospital he works at, do i go there or not, i dont want to see him again; do i apply to another hospital but have lower chances or getting accepted; or do i give him the satisfaction of seeing me single; just like he said that i will be a single doctor, because of my career choice and personality



Ultimately it comes down to whether or not you can deal with working around him. I have always been a firm believer in doing what is best for me. If working there is your best career option then I would go for it. Additionally, you will be surprised at how empowering it can be to achieve your goals despite everything that is going on. If need be, consume yourself in your work so you don't have to think about it.





The best thing you can do is to prove him wrong in everything he has said. WIth people like that who have to put others down to make themselves feel better, it is pointless to try to argue or defend yourself because it will get you nowhere. Simply live your life and accomplish your goals.





Hope this helps.




Your ex is an asshole. If i were you i wouldn't give 2 shits about him being there. If you have a very good chance of getting an excellent job at the hospital then go for it. Don't let your ex ruin things for you. If you don't do this volunteer work at this hospital , you might not have this good opportunity come along again. If i were you, i would not pass this chance up.




Apply to the hospital where you have the highest chance to get accepted, and also to other hospitals where you think your chances are lower. Then you will make your choice if you have several positive answers!





Stop thinking about this guy and what he may think of you. It seems it won't be difficult for you to find someone better than him! Be confident and you will find someone!




just do it,think about whats best for you.you have nothing you need to prove to him.he has already moved on and you dont need to let him hold you back from getting a good job




He's your ex... and was un-supportive and abusive to boot.





If you want to be a nurse/doctor/other then there should be nothing standing in your way. To be a medical professional requires tremendous strength of character and ability to handle stresses of life and death matters.





Apply where you have the best chance... this should have nothing to do with your ex or anyone else for that matter.





If you really want to be a nurse/physician/other then the LAST thing on your mind should be where your ex works or anything he's said about you.





I'm so tempted to say, Grow Up, it's your life, but, I do not want to be mean. I'm hoping you will see this on your own, though.





Good luck, sweetie.




I'm sorry that you've dealt with such an abusive person. Your ex sounds very degrading of others especially you. If it were me, I would try to stay as far away as I could from this individual as abuse can escalate albeit the two of you are no longer (thankfully) in a relationship (and hopefully never will again :) Perhaps you can apply to some other hospitals, if even, the next state just over the border of your state of residence.





For counseling due to effects of abuse and self-esteem issues, here is a site to possibly find resources: http://www.ndvh.org